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Her Success Is Not Your Failure

Good Afternoon Munchkins!

Today I thought I would talk to you about my new-found favourite quote ‘Her Success Is Not Your Failure’. This is one I’ve only found recently but it immediately stemmed about a thousand different thoughts in my head that I thought I would share with you. I literally found it at a time in which I needed it the most and I do find it quite applicable to my current life situation, but it can be heard and thought of in any stage of life.

This quote resonated with me a lot at this point in my life because I am currently studying and revising for my exams in the summer and the mocks I am undergoing at this moment in time. I am naturally a high achiever; I don’t want 10 A* or anything like that, but I really do want to reach my full potential in terms of my grades and my coursework. Some of these things I’ve worked towards for 11/nearly 12 years so, of course, it’s going to mean a lot to me, and it will also determine my future. However, there are some subjects I am quite concerned about and, I’ve found, that during school if you’re whole class does badly on a test you just think ‘meh, no one else has done well so I won’t be singled out’. I am very guilty of that, as I’m sure many people are! I have now found, though, that it literally doesn’t matter whether this person or that person has/hasn’t failed or whether only 10 people turned up to after school revision, it will impact you and you only. This is a point which has stressed me out to the max.!

Anyway, linking that back to the quote, I am struggling a lot in my 3 Science’s at the moment (just as an example). I’m in the highest set and I did feel quite honoured to be chosen for that because there’s literally 20 of us who were chosen to do it. Unfortunately, life has got in the way these past few years which has impacted my learning and so my general understanding of the subjects (particularly Physics and Chemistry). Basically, I am falling behind and it is seriously bringing me down. I’m still expected to pass which is (in the grand scheme of things) good enough for me but when nearly everyone else in the class is expected A’s/A*’s, it really does make you stand out and just feel like you shouldn’t be in that class. I am now, in turn, revising my tiny, little brain off and yesterday, as a little insight, I revised for 7 hours solid just on Chemistry. All that useful crude oil knowledge is now somewhere in my brain floating around ready to get lost in the great abyss again! Basically, I shouldn’t be stressing myself out this much but I still push on because I want to prove people wrong and if people do achieve much, much higher than me, I’m going to feel really disappointed in myself. I’m just contradicting the quote, I realise that, I’m sorry!

But whether it’s your exams, work, relationships, whatever, we are all going through the same thing. We still feel terrible despite all the work we put in for a mediocre end result and want desperately what everyone else has. Just think, you may not have got the promotion at work but you still go home to a loving family each night, which some people may not have. Despite not having the best Science grades, I still receive hot dinners every single night without fail. Your work colleagues, classmates or just general people in the world may not have that, so we are all lucky in our own respects and there will always be time to try again. I’m going to be honest with you, I hate Science with a passion because I don’t understand anything anymore, my brain literally just shuts down, but the promise of no longer having to do it in 4 and a half months is keeping me going! There is a light at the end of every tunnel and you are, and will always be, your own individual you – no one goes through your life or sees things through your eyes other than you. Trust me when I say this, you are doing great, you are living another day and you are worth each and every little bit of success you achieve, whether that’s a pay rise, a new fridge or just finishing that little piece of homework you have left! You are worth it and just remember you will succeed in your world, not anyone else’s. I think that, in itself, meant more to me than anything else.

And there we have it! I hope you enjoyed this blog post – got a bit deep towards the end but I love writing these chatty, life-y blog posts which, hopefully, benefit you! Let me know what your story behind this quote is or what other quotes are inspiring you right now because they are my biggest guilty pleasure!

Thank you so much for reading and I’ll see you Tuesday,

Rachel xx

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Things I’ve Learnt Now That I’ve Grown Up (Kinda)

Good Evening Munchkins!

Today I fancied writing a little chit-chat blog post about things I Have Learnt Since I’ve Grown Up. Well, at least in these past 15 years. Over these past 18 months I have had to grow up a significant amount very quickly and I feel that even though there are some parts of me that are currently just stitched instead of fully healed, at the time of writing I am level-headed enough to actually talk through it and how it has affected me mentally. When I was 7/8 I started suffering from anxiety and panic attacks and, even though it’s still there and pops up from time to time, I am gradually evolving into the person I’ve always wanted to be without it constantly hanging over my head. This is just a little list of the the things I have learnt and have helped steady me in terms of my anxiety which I hope help you too. These are things I have very recently realised but once I did it was as if a light bulb or a torch had been switched on and everything looked so differently (but so much better) once that had happened.

You Can’t Please Everyone

This was something that, even as a small child, would effect me massively. I don’t know why, but I have always felt a pressure to be the perfect everything for everyone and that I had to make everyone happy and if they were upset in some way it would come through one of my own faults. That, I have since learnt, is not the case. I’m still a bit of an introvert so I don’t always invite a large group of people over or hold huge gatherings so this shouldn’t really effect me as I ‘play hostess’ but I just know it has. I don’t know, maybe I was so used to covering up for my brother as a child that I would just allow myself to take it all. Anyway, the lesson I’ve learnt from this is that as long as I know I have done my best and reached my full potential then I have nothing to be upset or worry about myself. If people have a problem with you, that is down to them and they don’t deserve a place in your life. Treat that little metaphorical seat in your life like gold dust and it will ensure you only receive true gold for yourself.

Your Body is Your Body

This is something I’ve literally only just realised in the past couple of months. Since the age of around 6 I can remember being so discontent with my body and the way it looked. This probably (or almost certainly definitely) had something to do with my obsession with fashion and just comparing myself to the unrealistic bodies and images of models. I remember at the age of 7 trying to match my body to the different shapes they would show on the TV (like hourglass, pear etc.) and being so unhappy that I didn’t fit any of them. Okay, 7-year-old Rach, you hadn’t developed yet! Wait, your time will come! I can also remember saying from the age of 6 that I was on ‘a diet’ and that to me is just really sad to remember because I should’ve been doing whatever every other 6 year old was doing in 2007. Instead of climbing trees and walking along the beach where I live (which I’m taking full use of now!), I was staying inside because I was too scared of what people would think of me if they saw me. I acted like I was the Phantom of the Opera sometimes, honestly! I really don’t know why this happened though because I also became obsessed with Gok Wan who spread confidence like it was going out of style (I still love him 10 years on, by the way!). It was only recently when I realised that as a young woman (and eventually, older woman) my body is going to change a lot as I carry children, get older and just go through all the milestones and life things (trying to step over the menopause oh-so gracefully, there!). I’m still not going to walk down my street naked with all the pride in the world, but I now know and accept my body for what it is and wear clothes that emphasise the things I like instead of just wearing to cover up.

Pick Your Arguments

Being right and being argumentative are huge traits I have uncovered in the past 5 years, I would say, but I have also learnt to pick those arguments very carefully. I think it’s very easy for people who have these traits like myself to just ‘see red’ and go at full steam, when in fact the strength comes from holding it back and analyzing it’s worth and how you can argue your point better. I do stick up for what I believe in a lot, but I quite like thinking my argument through and winning because I bring in everything I could need (I have been known to bring in facts and figures when necessary). I no longer argue very much because the people around me now realise I’m not as small and shy as I first seem, but when I do it’s with well thought out arguments. I also need to be a bit more careful because I’m going into my last year at school so I can’t get in strops with people all the time and let that affect my learning or my grade (as I did with my science teachers that time). Just keep calm and keep classy!

There is Always Tomorrow

The final thing I’ve really learnt from being a child (as well as now, actually) is that there is always plenty of time and there is always a tomorrow. I think I do put a lot of pressure on myself to do a lot of things and I do set out very strict routines for myself because I know that’s how I work best, but at the end of the day, I am young and unless I unexpectedly get hit by a bus, I’m here for quite a while longer. For example, on this blog I upload three blog posts a week which is around 12 a month and it can get quite busy and quite hectic. I do tend to manage to keep my home life and my blog life and my school life separate but sometimes these overlap and that’s where my brain just explodes. Just remember that there are 24 hours in a day – I don’t recommend being awake and working that whole time but just know that there is always time. My issue is always my tiredness as well; if I’m tired I will just flop and not do anything!

And there we have it! I hope you have enjoyed this blog post – I love just chatting to you guys so let me know if you actually like them or not. Let me know what you’ve learnt over your life so far and if any of these helped you!

Thank you so much for reading and I’ll see you Tuesday,

Rachel xx

Surviving Step-Siblings

Good Afternoon Munchkins!

Over the past 15 months, I have been in the company of my two new step-brothers who are 5 and 7. I got to know them before I knew they were to be my step-brothers (it’s a very long story) which I think helped the transition but even still, gaining step-siblings is difficult and a major life change. I never thought I would ever actually gain step-siblings so when it happened I was completely shocked and didn’t know what to do, so a guide like this would’ve really helped me. These tips are designed from my own experience so if you’re going through the same thing, I hope you can take these and apply it to your lives. No, it’s not easy, but hopefully this will make it just that bit easier. This is an on-going thing so if you would like an updated version at some point I will do that for you, also.

Take Time Getting To Know Them

My step-brothers have very different characters which can be quite difficult at times but it does help in the future to get to them well from the beginning. I learnt from the very beginning that they were very hyperactive but if you give them certain things they like, they will sit down and complete them. Like anything, you need to know what you are dealing with before you start so you can get the full picture in your head and the same goes for step-siblings. Also, whether your the oldest or the youngest or somewhere in between, this is still someone you are going to have to spend time with for potentially the rest of your lives so it’s just better to try and create a friendship or at least civil relationship from the get-go. I know it’s easier said than done but they are still people; they haven’t done anything to you so don’t just go at them like a raging bull!

Try To Treat Them Like a Biological Sibling

I know some may read into this in the wrong way, but I think it is quite important. Now, if you are a person who fights a lot with your siblings, maybe don’t take this approach but it is important to make sure everyone knows where they stand. It’s also that thing to not have favourites or anything like that so ensure that they don’t feel left out but also that your biological siblings don’t feel that way either. I think when parents get into new relationships, the children can feel left out and forgotten about so if you can form a friendship (like the first point) with your step-siblings, it could help this and even bring you closer together. Just care for them and trust them and don’t be spiteful!

Don’t Forget They Are In The Same Situation As You

Finally, and probably most importantly, they are going through the same thing as you. I know it’s easy to think quite selfishly in this situation but they are experiencing everything as you are so just don’t make it any worse for them. Parents splitting up and getting into new relationships is hard (fact) and people do react to it in different ways so if they do so in a really negative way, let them get it out of their system (whilst being sympathetic, it will get you brownie points!) then try and focus on becoming friends and all the rest of it. What’s happening isn’t their fault so whilst you might take it out on them, they really don’t deserve it, they haven’t done anything. Also, stay level-headed through all of this (I’ve just realised how calm I’ve been throughout writing this!).

And there we have it! I hope you have enjoyed this blog post and it has helped you in some way – I don’t feel like I’ve written enough, though, so if you have any questions please don’t hesitate to ask me in the comments. I’m not a trained person in any of this but I have had my experience so I will try my best to help you if you want my help.

Thank you so much for reading and I’ll see you Tuesday,

Rachel xx

Life Goals 2015 | Blogmas

Good Afternoon Munchkins,

Today I’ve got a bit of a sentimental, personal blog post for you. I was wondering what other blog posts I could upload for Blogmas and I remembered that at the end of last year I did a kind of reflection in my personal life as well as my blogging life, but to be quite honest with you I have not had a good time this year and I’m not in the right place to write about it all (I have written life updates if you do want to know what’s happened). I just feel like that if I did that I would get upset about everything and I want this blog to be a happy place so I’m going to try and keep things positive. And so now I’ve decided to write about my ‘Life Goals’. They may change or become different as time goes on and I get older, but do just remember the fact I’m 14 and have had a terrible time so is wishing for better things. Some of these are pretty big things and other smaller, but all things I want to complete, either by the end of next year or just generally in my life. I would love it if you could join in with this and either write a blog post of your own on this (and leave a link in the comments so I can have a read!) or just a small comment or whatever level you would like to share it on. Although, I am just going to say, be careful what you wish for. I’ve wished for things previously as everyone does and let’s just say some of the negative things have come true. I think this will be a great idea but also let’s just be relaxed about it, it’s not a definite ‘by 25 I must be …’ and all that. Just relaxed. Breathe!

So my first ‘Life Goal’ is an obvious one but one that I think should be mentioned: to have children. To have my own family is something I’ve always wanted and I’ve found my definite girls name so if a girl is to come first, perfect, I’m planned! I would also like to stay with the Father of my children or the Father-figure unless it’s really not possible as I come from a family whose parents have split up and I don’t really want to put my children through that. I know I was a slightly ‘unique’ situation but I still don’t want to be one of those Mothers who is constantly asking if they’ve packed for their Dads or not. I know that some parents can just not stay together due to arguing or not getting along and I appreciate that, but for my children’s sake I would really want to stay with their Father. I just feel like we should experience our children’s lives together and not miss milestones just because they’re at the others house (did anyone else feel the heartbreak when Ross realised he wasn’t the one who heard Ben’s first word in Friends?). However, unlike most people, I cannot give you an actual reason to wanting children. I don’t know why I want children, but I just know I want to do the mothering thing. I know I may regret saying that one day but yanno; hopefully it’s going to happen to me one day.

In saying that, marriage is still something I haven’t quite decided on. Maybe if I’m in that place but I’m not so sure about that, unless he really wants it for some reason. I don’t know that one’s still an idea to be played with. I do want to try and find the ‘one’ though. I’ve had one relationship and that just wasn’t a pleasurable experience towards the end. I just want someone who will take care of me!

My second is to get a Saturday job. This one’s slightly smaller and something that is more relevant to me now, but I feel like this would help my family out a lot. I’m starting to look for jobs for when I turn 15 as it is, but I feel like I would enjoy it. It would mean spending less time being stressed out by the family, gaining money that I could spend on myself or others (I’m that person that goes shopping for myself and ends up getting 10 advent calendars for all the children in the family) and also money to go into my savings or if my Mum needs help money-wise. I know it’s not going to pay thousands but it’s still that little bit extra that we may need. Like the children thing, I will probably regret saying that, but I like being busy and having a massive list of things to complete. I just want to live life! Also, everyone at some point has a Saturday job of some sort, so why can’t I?

My next one is another smaller one: to get my cartilage pierced and to get tattoos. For those that don’t know, the cartilage is the part of the ear at the top (the curved bit). It feels a bit more solid and ‘in shape’ than the normal part of the ear you get pierced (due to the cartilage). I few of my friends have it done and I really like how it looks. I just need to find money and time and the confidence, haha. I might get it done for my birthday, but I’m not sure. I do want to get it done though. My reason for wanting tattoos, like children, I have no idea. I know I want to get a few small ones (an anchor on my wrist and LGBT on somewhere like my wrist as well or maybe on my hip). I think I’m only going to get tattoos that really mean something so I don’t just look like a walking poster. I don’t know why I like anchors, I just really like them (and the other day I say Harry Styles has one on his forearm!) and my friends keep saying they’re going to put a ‘w’ in front of it to make ‘wanker’ but yanno what? I honestly don’t care! LGBT for the sheer fact I support it, my Mum’s a lesbian and I feel like I should for her and everyone else who is going through it. That is going to be my tattoo for my Mum and will probably be my first (just for the fact to guilt her as her first wasn’t for me!). I’ve already got the image in my head of what the letters will look like and stuff. I’m not going to have anything around it, just have it completely stripped back. I will go through the pain for that! I do hate pain though, hence why they’re going to be small!

My fourth ‘Life Goal’ is to get all of my GCSE’s A*-C Grade (though I’m having the new grade boundaries, so something like 5-9). This is pretty standard but something I’ve always said and wanted. My parents have been very hard working people and my Dad repeatedly talks about how my cousins failed at education and how he wishes he went to college etc. so it’s kind of always been on my shoulders. My step-family, however, are the complete opposite. I kind of want to do it for myself and my future instead of what my family will think as I know half will really care and the other half … not so much. I just want to be able to open my little envelope and be super chuffed with the results. I’ve started some of my controlled assessments and have an exam in June so I’m literally praying! As well as myself, I would love to be able to see my 3 brothers pass their GCSE’s (if they still exist when they get there!). The four of us are pretty bright kids and hopefully we’ll be able to sustain it! I just want us all to have the same chances and opportunity’s and enjoy life! My youngest brother’s 4 though, so he’s going to have it hardest, bless him. Little thing won’t know what’s hit him! (As I write this he’s staring at our fire, in the fireplace not just the whole house, and he looks so sweet. I kind of don’t want him to grow up!)

My fifth one is to see my brothers go to prom. We all have our issues and I’m hoping that hormones don’t make them even angrier or anything so they do end up going to prom and stuff. I just want to see them go out with a girl in suit and embarrass them. Big sister fun! I want to go to prom as well but it’s going to be even better watching them in 5, 10 and 12 years. Might have a little wait but hey ho!

Another thing I would love to do is spend Christmas and/or New Year with a boyfriend. Obviously I need a boyfriend in order to complete this, so for now it’s impossible but it’s there! I know it will become an occurrence every year once I’ve had children and am in a committed, longt-term relationship, but there’s just something that appeals to being young and spending Christmas or New Year with someone other than family. Don’t get me wrong, I love my family and the routine but I can just imagine being in my early twenties with a boyfriend (who may or may not last) and spending Christmas Day together. So cute! Ooh, similar to that, I would love to have an actual New Year’s kiss, a Valentine and all those things. There are loads more I just can’t think of them. And a boyfriend on my birthday. I’m basically talking about how single and lonely I am, great!

Also kind of linking to that, I would love to spend New Year in New York. Going to New York is something I definitely want to do anyway but I’d love to spend time there in the winter with it being all snowy and like the films and then spending New Year there. This doesn’t have to be with a boyfriend, but still. It would be so much fun to feel the atmosphere and the buzz; I just think this will be so much fun.

A slightly smaller one (depending on how you look at it) is to have a holiday romance. Now, I know people have loads of different views on this, but for a week on holiday I would love that. That is seriously leaving everything at home behind and having fun. This could be next year or in the next 10 years, but I think it would be so fun and so impulsive and something I would remember as I got older in my soon-to-be ‘boring’ life.

My final ‘Life Goal’ is to be able to become a makeup artist or something to do with makeup (basically a job I love). I heard the phrase ‘if you have a job you love, you never have to work a day of your life’ a few years ago and I really like the sound of that. Makeup is something, as I’m sure you know, I adore and to be able to make it into a job would just be a dream come true. I would also love the experience of meeting new people and being able to watch them and be like ‘I did that!’. If I get stuck doing my Saturday job for my whole life, I think the novelty will eventually wear off! I’ve known people who’ve hated their jobs and have only spoken negatively and I don’t want that. I just want to enjoy my life. Is there a theme going on here? I would be so chuffed if my children only remembered me as a happy person because I had a happy life. Just, complete! The people I would just love to use make-up-wise would have to be Kim Kardashian, Katy Perry and Mila Kunis. Their faces are legit goals in themselves! I would also like to have at least one day where my eyeliner is completely identical on both sides and to be able to paint my nails and not just the skin around them! Career-wise, I would love for this blog to take off, but whether it does or not is another matter completely. If I could make a living out of this then I would seriously be the luckiest and happiest person alive, but for now, I do need to plan my life with an ‘actual’ job. Sad times!

I think that’s all of them, and this might just be the longest blog post I’ve ever written, but hey ho. As I said earlier, let me know of your ‘Life Goals’ as well, I would love to know and to have this spread around for everyone to see! As I said earlier as well, if you decide to turn this into a blog post as well, leave the link in the comments so I can read it. I’ve really enjoyed writing this blog post, something a bit different, something to keep you on your toes!

Thank you so much for reading and I’ll see you soon,

Rachel xx

Not Being That ‘Perfect Girl’

Good Morning, Munchkins. You might think that because I’ve uploaded really early both yesterday and today that I’m being very good at blogging and should get a ‘Bloggers Pet Award’ (don’t worry, I just made it up!) but no, I’m writing this the night before as tomorrow (or your today) I’m going to stay with my Granny and Pop-Pops until Friday so I’ll probably upload Saturday and Sunday instead of all of this week. I just think we should have a little chat (grab yourself a coffee and it’ll be a Coffee Morning) about blogging and how people perceive bloggers to be.

I’m guilty of it myself, I believe that some bloggers are the most amazing thing to walk upon this Earth and that they could never have a bad day because of the beauty within them and how kind and dedicated to their readers they are. Some people might be thinking I’m being arrogant and talking about myself, I’m honestly not, if you saw behind the scenes yes, I’m kind and dedicated to my readers but in no way am I or have I been a beautiful person all my life. I’m only human. You know a lot about me but not even my best friends know everything about me, so I would not at this current point in my life would I like to share those experiences.

Some people think I’m really strong because of my Depression and Bipolar and Panic Attacks but I’m honestly not; I’m just completely vulnerable. My Depression started when my Great-Nan died, as I got over my Depression I ended up with Bipolar and my Bipolar and Depression put together has made me insecure which trigger my Panic Attacks.

I’m only 13; I’m the first to fall asleep at sleepovers because I’m youngest; I get angry when my hair or makeup doesn’t go right; the future scares me; I want someone to tell me they love me or say I’m beautiful (and hopefully not followed by a wolf whistle); I want that one person to notice me; past experiences are something that cause my Panic Attacks; I’m so grateful for this website to let me share things with you; I’m slow but can be quick-witted; I love talking but I can never start a conversation with someone new. You see my pain?

I’m not all that may come across in my blog. I’m a size 14, only 5 foot tall, size 4 in shoes, I have blue eyes, I’ve been dyeing my hair since I was 9 so I don’t know my current hair colour, I have pale Irish complexion but I have rosy cheeks then tan quite well so no Foundation or BB Cream ever suits me, I’m a fangirl.

I don’t care. I will quite happily share this information with you because I know that you probably have this picture of me in your head as I haven’t shared any pictures of myself on here and she probably looks nothing like me. Your Rachel is probably a girl who lives by the sea and spends everyday drinking tea and eating scones in her small country of England. My Rachel has never eaten a scone and if I have a cup of tea I end up with a mug with a Stormtrooper on. On a good day there will be mild wind but in the winter there is no point in even brushing my hair. I’m scared that people who see me judge me because of what I look like because people are judgemental and always will be until the end of time. That’s life.

All I’m saying is that you shouldn’t glamorize people if you don’t know them. There’s so much you don’t know about me as I’ve already said so please don’t be scared when I tell you these things.

For example, one thing I will share with you right now is that I have a 3rd cousin who is 3 and has Global Delay and Cerebral Pulsey and he’s the only one in my whole family who is disabled. Every night or every other night I just think the ‘what ifs’. He is a cute little kid and it always seems to happen to the best of people. Even though it has nothing to do with me I still feel so bad. I love him and that’s one of the reasons I feel such hatred to the World in that sense for making him live like this. Then again, everything happens for a reason.

People have actually said to me ‘Oh, if you’re depressed why are you so happy?’. This was when I was getting better but guess what, you ever heard of the phrase ‘Make The Best Out Of A Bad Situation?’ or ‘I don’t want to worry/annoy the people around me with my problems’? It’s called life, just because you have everything served to you on a gold platter doesn’t mean the rest of us do, we’re only trying to carry on breathing in this world for as long as we can.

I’m at that age where boys are starting to like girls and immediately go for the pretty, skinny girls who are so fake they could give Barbie a run for her money. I fancy one of these boys and it hurts so much. I look a right mess at school as well. Oh well, it’ll either happen or it won’t.

I know I sound really depressing today, I’m sorry, but it’s just one of those days. I’m not depressed, or not as bad as I was anyway. I’m normally fine; it’s just one of those days.

Thank you for reading and I’ll see you soon,

Rachel xx

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How To Reach Your Goals In Life

Good afternoon my Munchkins. Today this could get deep so get your snorkel on (am I the only one that does that?). Today (as you can tell my the title) is about reaching goals during your lifetime, if you want to word it differently. 

As you probably already know, I am going through Year 8 Options at school and I gave in my form the day we broke up for the Easter holidays (deadline, what deadline!?) and whatever our outcomes be by the end of it, it will be a significant change to our education and our lives once we leave school. If you read my post a couple of weeks ago about it you will know I chose Drama, Media, Health & Social Care, History and my reserve Computer Science. My best friend however (Chummy C) chose Health & Social Care, Dance, Textiles, Computer Science and her reserve Media. If you have a eyes and brain to join it then you will know if we don’t get our reserves we will only have one lesson together. You (if you have or are going through it) will know that you won’t be with your friends in every lesson, but you can always make more and it’s going to go towards a career which hopefully you will love. For me thats Drama, and to be an actress would just be amazing.

Now, for me, becoming an actress will be quite difficult. 

1. I live nearly two hours away from London (A.K.A. the West End).

2. There are no decent Stage Schools/Drama Classes that are cheap enough or do the things I need to learn.

3. Unless I bother to get up and do something which is pretty much impossible (check point 1 & 2) then I will never get the things I need on a CV or just plain experience. 

Coming from a working class family has never worried me or stopped me in any way before, but with a stage school that’s like £100 a term, I know I could never put my parents through that financial hell. When I first decided I wanted to be an actress I thought it would be easy. 

1. Take Drama GCSE.

2. Pass.

3. Go to the Italia Conti School of Performing Arts in London.

4. Pass.

5. Do shows in the West End.

6. Get recognised.

7. Be showered by love and money. 

No, Mini Me, no. Life is not that easy. Since then I have learnt about something called realism. Be realistic. Of course you can be whoever you want to be but don’t make the plans I did. It’s just embarrassing looking back. I’ll just be happy getting Drama as one of my GCSE’s, to be honest. 

If you have a completely ‘out there’ as some people put it dream like me then always make a backup plan. This might seem like you’re downgrading yourself a bit, but it’s like saying, ‘Oh, I could get the train to Charring Cross then go on to Covent Garden, but if that doesn’t work I could get the tube from London Bridge to Piccadilly Circus and walk round’. Oh, what a British example. It is like that though. Throughout day to day life you’re going to have to make a backup plan and this is no different. My backup plan is beautician, but do not resort yourself to Tesco. And don’t think that because you’re older you can’t do it, look at Sam Bailey for example, she’s in her mid-thirties and won The X Factor last year. 

So here are my top tips for reaching your goals:

– Experience: Whether this is a Saturday job in a hairdressers or just practicing lines in a mirror, experience is a must. 

– Backup Plan: Need I explain more?

– Careers Advisor: This is clearly for when your at school or college but knowing what courses to take after school or anywhere you could get experience is something they’re trained in. They will give you the help and advice you need to get where you want to be. 

– Search around for jobs: Most people want jobs and anything beats nothing if it gives you just that little bit more. 

– Stay True: I can not emphasise this enough. I hate fake people and people won’t like you unless you’re you because that’s what people look for, and if your career means changing who you are, maybe you should rethink it a bit. 

 – Never Give Up: If you’ve just got little jobs when you really want the big jobs, just stay patient and it will eventually come. This could be a few months or even years, but it will be worth it, I promise. 

OK, you can now take off your snorkels because I think that’s everything I wanted to cover. Obviously, if there’s something else you want to ask me or cover, just write it in the comments or email me at my email address which will be at the bottom. I hope you’ve enjoyed this blog and I hope this has helped you or just given you that extra little boost. 

Yeah, so thank you for reading and I’ll see you during the week hopefully, with it being Easter and that,

Rachel xx

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My Email Address: rachelkate01@yahoo.co.uk