Good Evening Munchkins!
Today I would like to chat with you about my views and personal role in the LGBT community. As those of you may or may not know, I literally am surrounded by gays and its the best thing that has ever happened to me! Obviously they’re still just people but I can never deny the bravery they convey to me and their strength they have against other people; one of my favourite things my best friend has ever said to a homophobe was ‘just because I’m gay doesn’t mean I can’t punch you’. She is literally my favourite person! There are more than just gay/lesbian people in this community, of course, but my main area of knowledge is with them. Just as a little bit of background, my best friend is gay and I’m really good friends with her girlfriend (who is also trans) and my Mum is also gay so I’ve got her and her girlfriend to live with as well.
First of all, I just want to point out that despite the fact I’m straight, I can and will still support the LGBT community with the same amount of strength as my friends. I honestly believe everyone is equal (can you tell?!) and we should be treated in this way. It doesn’t matter who you go to bed with at night, you should be treated by the quality of your personality, the amount of effort you put in at work or general life and just whether you’re a good person or not. I am kind of scared some people will think I’m treading on other’s toes who are primarily affected by homophobia, transphobia or any other issues surrounding the community but on the other hand, I kind of see it as ‘the more the merrier’ in terms of support. In my own way, I kind of know what it’s like to not be believed in on what you believe is 100% true, though of course it’s not on the same scale.
I know some may disagree but I also consider myself quite privileged to live in a time where people who are gay or trans or gender fluid, to name a few, are much more widely accepted. Homophobia does still take place (and it is brutal, I’ve been unfortunate enough to experience it myself when with my friends) but you aren’t going to be legally punished for it and you can also get officially married in this country now. I don’t want to sugarcoat or just brush past homophobia/transphobia or general bullying because it is a massive issue that should be resolved but I’m trying to say that in comparison to it being illegal to love who you want to love, it is miles better and individual countries have progressed so much in the past 100/150 years or so. Even if individuals can’t accept your true self, the state will now defend you as it is seen as harrasment or a hate crime when you know you are doing nothing wrong by simply being with your partner.
I think like a lot of topics, I was quite naive as a child and thought that we were all equal because it was the 2000’s and everything was obviously ‘better’ than in previous years. I don’t think I fully understood the ethics of the community at that point either; that has only come to me in recent years. I think up until my friend came out to me about 3/4 years ago I was quite judgmental; she looked nothing like a lesbian so how could she be? Of course that isn’t the case and you shouldn’t stereotype people on what they look like and hence what their gender or sexuality is. There are some that are really obvious with it but just let that person confirm or reject that idea – they could just like to look that way, after all!
Now that I’m older and have all this experience, I’m no longer a stereotypical person, nor do I ‘fear the unknown’ so much. My Mum is the exact same since she’s come out and so is my best friend (only they are so much happier). We still laugh about the same stuff, we still cry about the same stuff and she’ll still give me boy advice if I need it. I would say that I definitely love my best friend, and just because she now has a girlfriend, that love isn’t going to evaporate into the great abyss. I fell in love with her humour, Agony-Aunt-style-advice and genuine human-ness. Basically, your true friends will stick by you because they fell in love with who you are and not who you appear to be before you come out. That became really soppy, I’m really sorry about that!
Finally, the changes we need to make as a whole. It’s much easier said than done to do things such as eradicate homophobia completely or allow trans toilets because it is going to be a long process but bit by bit, we will get there, and it will take one person at a time to do so. In terms of homophobia, it can be reported to the police. You won’t be seen as ‘making a fuss out of nothing’ or anything like that – it’s a legitimate crime that can be dealt with. If you are in school, you can take it straight to your head of year/house or even head teacher as it is a very severe issue that should be tackled. No school should allow any form of bullying whether it’s racist, because of someone’s disability or sexuality, so they will do something for you. For much bigger, nationwide issues like trans toilets, that isn’t so simple to solve. However, we can all campaign and all fight as a whole because someone shouldn’t be torn which way to go when they need the toilet. It isn’t about classifying someone as ‘trans’, it’s about allowing them to be their true self. These were only two examples but, honestly, I would do anything for my friends and family to be truly happy and comfortable in themselves. Just because I fit the ‘normal ideal human’ doesn’t mean I don’t feel bad for them and want to help them. I feel like I’m just rambling now, but the LGBT community is something I feel so strongly about and is something I will support until the end of time.
And there we have it! I hope you have enjoyed this blog post and it has educated you or helped you in some way. I’m not a professional in this in anyway, shape or form but this is my opinion and my viewpoint on the topic. Let me know what you think of the LGBT community and how you would help them, but please keep it nice in the comments! They are still people and that should be more widely recognised.
Thank you so much for reading and I’ll see you tomorrow,